(image from: http://www.newcanaanoutback.org/2013/04/03/active-parenting-program-raising-healthy-kids-2/ )
If you read and/or watch the news daily on the television or on the internet, you probably would have seen quite a number of news involving young people doing bad things, like the past few school shootouts etc. It is alarming to hear these kinds of news. And it made me think, what’s the problem? Right now, I think it lies with “parenting” and “money”.
From my observations, a lot of parents nowadays seems to have forgot about one of their responsibilities as a parent. A lot of them are too hooked up on work, get home late then go straight to bed. They’re too busy earning money that they forget to spend time with their family, especially with their children. Maybe most thinks that since their children will be happy if they buy them new gadgets or any other thing, they can simply focus on work then buy those things for their children. Yes, children gets happy when you buy them new things but that’s it, you’re just making them happy, for a while if I may add. And by focusing too much on this area makes you forget that you need to teach them, to raise them.
Most creatures yearn for affection, especially from their parents. Children does not only seek affection and attention but also tends to mimic their parents, so what happens if their parent doesn’t spend time with them? Apart from feeling neglected, they then tend to look for other things that they can use as an example. On some cases they even develop bad feelings towards their parents. Now, one of the most probable example that they will be seeing and using would be other children. Now what if that other children has a caring parent? This child can develop a deeper sense of feeling neglected by his parents. And if the other children is in the same state as this child? Then they’d be looking at an example that is also looking for an example.
They will probably realize now that they can’t use one another as an example, so they will try to expand their search, look for other people or things. So now it could be, another person on the neighborhood or media. Superheroes, television stars, movie stars, games. Since their parent is busy with their own lives, these kids become acquainted with these without proper guidance. That will lead to them trying to identify and understand these things based on their own knowledge, which would mostly be quite limited. So what’s the result? A neglected child, trying to understand things around him with his limited knowledge. The longer the child stays like that, the more drastic the effects could be.
So parents, you should spend time with your family. Raise your child to be a better person. That should be your goal.